These are general 21st century recommendations that I (someone whom is 20 years of age) is given out to anyone whom wants to listen. If you disagree, feel free to comment. I'm open-minded to other opinions or add-ons. :)
1. Develop healthy eating habits. You don't need to skip on dessert or soda but do it in moderation. You may be young now and maybe have a faster metabolism but it can catch up to you and if you have bad habits they will haunt you.
2. Don't starve yourself to fit an ideal but try to be a size that you TRULY feel happy at and in a body you feel happy in. Accept your flaws, change what you can't stand (as long as you do it in a healthy way) and don't let your weight/size/body shape, etc control you. You deserve to be confident, happy and feel good.
3. Try to take good care of your skin and it will take good care of you.
4. Drink water.
5. Try to develop a semblance of an exercise regimen and STICK TO IT! Even if it is only walking 30 mins 3X a week you will look and feel better.
6. Learn everything you can about healthy relationships and healthy, loving partners.
7. Learn abut sex, google stuff. It's good to be knowledgeable even if you never, ever do it.
8. Try new things, be an activist, use your voice.
9. Keep up on your appearance. It is okay to be a non makeup using and/or nail-biting individual but you will go farther on average (so studies show) and feel better if you keep up on your hair, hygiene, <make-up> and fashion.
10. Develop a style and rock it. Whether it be preppy or trendy or hipster having a style is good. Make sure that style reflects YOU though, it is part of your first impression you give people. Also, try different styles to figure out which one you feel most confident in and flatters you the best and then work it!
11. Know that you are worth it. You are worth your ideal life, ideal partner and ideal self. You do NOT deserve to be abused, in any way, shape or form. You deserve to feel beautiful, loved, respected and wanted. You deserve GOOD friends whom cherish and adore you. You're perfect.
12. Even if you don't feel it, act confident. Plaster a smile on your face, say hello and be friendly.
13. Kill them with kindness. Someone being a bitch to you? Don't get mad, get glad. Be nice to those jerks and they will never know what they said hurt or offended you. You will look AWESOME, cool, calm and collected while they look like the idiotic asses that they are. They lose power and people respect you. Win-win!
14. Don't retaliate. There are places for revenge but gossip and malicious slander isn't worth it. You end up feeling like shit yourself and everyone thinks you're a jerk too. Even if it is a "good friend," and you overhear them talking about you in their dorm (through the door/wall) as you were using the BR... Retaliation has never worked for me or for anyone I know. (True story, bro).
15. Never go too hard into drugs (alcohol included ya'll!) AND PLEASE(!!!!!) ALWAYS practice safety rules:
A. Never walk alone, especially at night and ESPECIALLY under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol. If you absolutely have to make a REAL phone call to ANYONE and stay on the phone until you are locked into your room/apartment and tell them each street you pass and describe anyone around you who is eyeing you. It would be great if every woman bought a tazer/ "defense flashlight" and/or pepper spray.
B. Keep your phone on you at all times and on volume as much as possible!
C. Never leave your friends even if you feel like throwing up, you started your period, your friends are being assholes, you're tired, you're sick, you hate the band, WHATEVER. STAY WITH THEM!
D. Never take a taxi alone. If you have to, call a friend and tell them the taxi drivers cab number and company, full name, badge number, where you are going and how long it should take and tell them that you will call them the second you are at the location. Also, make sure the taxi driver matches their license pic.
E. Never go off with a stranger you don't know well (especially a man). Even on a date or if it is the cute boy whom lives on your floor. JUST DON'T GO ALONE! Bring a friend, preferably more than one until you know them super well.
F. Please don't have one night stands unless it's like your very trusted lover or friend. One, it is SO SO SO unsafe and two, for a lot of people emotions are involved and it doesn't end well. Think hook-ups and booty calls through!
G. LISTEN to your guts and instinct. Run away from anyone with a gun, NEVER go with them. The likelihood of them shooting you is low but if you go with them you PROBABLY will die.
H. Report any assault or rape. Please women, report it and try to get justice. YOU DESERVE JUSTICE!
Re-cap: Try to not get drunk or really high unless you are in a very safe situation with very trusted, reliable, good friends. A "fun" night is not worth the risk of assault, rape, battery or death.
Also, you can have fun on a buzz. You won't throw up, you won't make a fool of yourself, you won't have a hangover and you won't regret actions.
I love you all no matter how little I know you. You ALL deserve happiness, love, respect and safety. Until our world is a safe place, please follow these guidelines. :)
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