What I’ve learned about people by the time I was 18:

1. People are not innately cruel. That is something they learn. I believe that is entirely nurture and NOT nature.

2. Society makes us emphasize beauty more than any other aspect. More even than money, kindness, love, friendship, family, intelligence, personality, EVERYTHING. Every single aspect of your life is somehow related to beauty, unconscious or conscious, it relates.

3. No one can be perfect. I don’t just mean physically but mentally and emotionally. We all make mistakes, there is no way around it and there is no way to fix it other than try to learn from everything you do and everything that happens to you.

4. Every event in your life shapes you. Bad events and good events shape you. You may hate someone at 16 but love them at 26 because events shaped them and events shaped you. Sometimes no matter what you will despise someone because they aren’t a good person for you and in your opinion. Sometimes no matter what a person is not good in general. I think that is rare but it definitely a possibility.

5. Relationships will work and will fail. It isn’t your fault. EVEN if you cheated and that’s why you broke up it isn’t your fault because you cheated because the relationship wasn’t working. Don’t get me wrong, cheating is messed up but there are reasons behind it. It isn’t your partner’s fault either for those reasons. BUT there are reasons.

6. Family is important. All your relationships are equally important because each person is equal in this world and so should each relationship BUT that doesn’t always mean your time with each segment should be equal. For example, you should be home more (usually with family and/or partner) than out (with friends and/or partner.) However, time segments are constantly changing. For example, when you first meet someone you will give more time to them and less time to family. It should still be fairly equal but the relationship needs that time to grow. Then when it stabilizes it needs to become completely equal and then can fall back to its previous stage of more family. When you marry or live together with a partner then they becomes family and it shifts again. Do you see what I’m saying? Time segments are always shifting but each segments deserves NEARLY equal time. Say you give 30 hours a week to friends, then you should give approximately 40 hours a week to family and home.

7. Time changes again when you work and/or attend school of course and get into a regular schedule; this is helpful in some ways for regulating free time.

8. You should NOT waste time with people who do not appreciate you and treat you unequally to other people or to how you treat them. I’m not saying that you are a warm person and they are not so dump them. I mean in respect and kindness. If they do not respect you and are not treating you well, why the heck are you even speaking to them?

9. People will constantly make mistakes because of their past. People are weak and they are strong. We are and have all been both. If someone uses drugs and alcohol as a crutch for a while, you should support them to stop it but you shouldn’t pressure them and you should not let it get to you and mess up other relationships. It is hard not to become too involved but do NOT let it get under your skin. It will hurt you more than you can bear. On another note, do not get addicted to crutches. It will only harm you in the long term. Yes, life is very hard sometimes and you just want to give up and sink into sweet bliss and oblivion and that is okay when things are becoming very overwhelming but do not use it to get through the day. That is when it’s a problem. I’m not judging you on this but I truthfully include all drugs. I mean alcohol, marijuana, nicotine, caffeine, and other drugs. They are all bad for you and are all crutches. A little pick me up or relaxer is okay sometimes but don’t rely on it to live.

10. People are not treated equally in this world. Women are beneath men; people of color are beneath whites; overweight is beneath thin/normal sized, obese is beneath overweight and normal sized, handicapped are beneath normal bodied, lower intelligence are beneath bright, bad athletes are beneath good athletes, ETC.. It could go on forever! Because you will always be considered better and worse than every other person you meet. Is this right? NOT AT ALL. But our society and human beings themselves are competitive and all we do is constantly, continuously, forever compete to be better. The better looking, the better brain, the better personality, the better objects, the better family, the better spouse, the better LIFE. Who can be the most perfect in this society, in this location, in this WORLD.

11. You don’t need to be societies norm however you need to be normal enough to get by. Does our society need a massive overhaul? Yes. Should each individual work together to do so? Yes. Does this mean that it’s happening? Not really. So work for it, strive for it but until then keep the most insane parts of you closed to the general public and open for only those you trust. Also, just because you have an “in-group” doesn’t mean you should close yourself from the “out-groups.” OKAY? Stay open to all. There are some people I just can’t be open for (this is mean people, rapists, murderers, pedophiles, people who are violent, racist and/or people who wish to dehumanize other people and take away their free will and power-obsessed people) but it doesn’t mean I would dehumanize them. They are disgusting to me but I will never dehumanize them because against my better wishes they exist and they are humans and I will not create a violent world. I will not be the violent society that exists in America. I will not allow dehumanization in my own heart because that breeds cruelty and inhumane acts.

12. People deserve all the free will they are given at birth by God, by our constitution and by being a living being. There are people in this world that greatly wish to steal this free will from us. They will stop at nothing to do so and push their own agenda. This is because they want power. They are cruel, cold, uncaring people who are power hungry. America is a breeding ground for them for multiple reasons. I do not wish to imply America is a bad place, not at all, however, our society and our government allows these large corporations and massive lobbying groups to wield immense power over EVERYTHING. Over how we view ourselves, over what we eat and drink, what products we use, what knowledge we gain, where and how we live, who we love and date and have sex with, where and how we work and beyond anything what happens to our bodies and minds. If this doesn’t worry you then I just have to say you are blessed and condemned.

13. Let’s pull away from politics because I can go on forever. Let’s get back to the basics. RESPECT. Everyone deserves respect because we are equals. We all have emotions, feel something. Some of us more than others. We are all different just like everyone else. This mean we are all EQUAL and all DIFFERENT. We should embrace our equality and respect our differences. Tolerance. I don’t mean love everyone but to at least tolerate everyone would be a huge step towards a violent-free and peaceful future.


I hope you all like what I personally learned by the time I was 18. Let’s see what I learn in the next 18 years eh? ☺